“Tenderness and kindness
are not signs of weakness and despair,
but manifestations of strength and resolution.”
― Kahlil Gibran
We have often heard questions like: What would you do if you knew you could not fail? There is a lot of power in that question, yet I found myself second guessing and qualifying my response based not on my inner intuitive self but on the concrete realities of life around me. It’s hard to answer a question like this because deep inside ourselves our limiting beliefs and past history of things not succeeding affects our response.
However, as I joined Rickie Harmon in the KIND Women and Go KIND Seattle movements I began to ask myself different questions. This turned out to be a life changing situation for me that is still going on every single day.
I am a person who is very creative, very intuitive and very empathetic. This means I often wear my heart on my sleeve just begging the whole world to rip it off and leave me vulnerable. It also means that I struggle with anxiety and depression on a daily basis.
Getting involved with KINDNESS as a daily, purpose filled, intentional practice is changing the level of anxiety and depression and at the same time allowing me to safely wear my heart on my sleeve. This is because I started asking questions that didn’t trigger my limiting beliefs. Yes–I know– there is help for that and I’m getting it–but how about questions that do NOT trigger limiting beliefs? That is what is making the biggest difference in my life.
Here are the questions I now ask myself on a daily basis because they are the catalyst for the magic of kindness for me:
- How can I be kind to myself today?
- How can I be kind to someone I hold dear to my heart today?
- How can I be kind to someone who triggers all my negative impulses today?
That’s it. And the real miracle of kindness is not that I’m less anxious, depressed, or empathetic BUT that I am more kind and therefore more alert to what is really going on in my life and the lives of others. Kindness as a purposeful question asked by myself daily has made it possible to face really hard tasks without fracturing myself or others–most of the time. It’s still hard sometimes but every day I find myself waking and thinking and being more and more kind.
“Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.
Kindness in giving creates love.”
― Lao Tzu