“When angry, count four.
When very angry, swear.”
― Mark Twain
I swear a lot! It is sometimes hard to be kind and loving in our world right now. It is easy to be angry. With the political upheavals, rampant injustice, violence, murder, mayhem it is sometimes hard to see the incredible kind and beautiful world we live in.
“Speak when you are angry and
you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”
― Ambrose Bierce
I’ve learned the hard way–and keep learning the hard way–that speaking when I am angry never gets me the results I desire. Since joining KIND WOMEN and the Go KIND Seattle groups I have learned a really great lesson. When I get angry and stay angry and feel grumpy and gloomy and what’s-the-use attitude envelops me, I’m more aware of how bad anger is making me feel. This un-expected outcome of purposefully living a life of kindness is outstanding!
The strong person is not the good wrestler.
Rather,the strong person is the one
who controls himself when he is angry.
(Sahih al-Bukhari, Book 73, #135)”
My husband has noticed that I speak differently when I’m angry now. Oh, the first outburst of swearing happens and the railing fruitlessly against injustice happens but very quickly I’m able to change what I’m saying and revert to the knowledge that everyone is living a life that is sometimes a struggle and my anger settles. Kindness then peeps around the corner, checking first to be sure it is safe, and then becomes the operating behavior again.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm
to the vessel in which it is stored
than to anything on which it is poured.”
― Mark Twain
So my vessel is becoming stronger daily and my anger, although still present, isn’t the caustic acid it once was. How is charing to kindness as a way of life affecting you?